Hi my name is Hiba Maha and iam here to lay down the reality of parenting, here it goes; firstly there is no such thing as perfect family or perfect child ect.., to be honest we all just go along with it and learn from our mistakes. So STOP!!!giving yourself a hard time and stop comparing yourself to other parents. know that each family operates differently just like how our 10 fingers are not the same ect..so enjoy and laugh at those moments when life turns into a big zoo, because amongst that hectic crazy moments is when you find strength and memories of lifetime.

WHY IS THE WORLD AFRAID OF WHATS DIFFERENT???-

Sometimes in life all you need is one question to undestand this world.

So please i would love your input and thoughts s to this question

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“Hasn’t your mum taught you…

We all here this statment to many times As a mother is the last thing you want to hear from people specialy from spouse so the point im making is that the responiblity of teaching ones child belongs to both parents, dont over burden yourselfs mums there are somthings only a mother can teach and somethings a father can teach thats why is a unity. may allah make our life journey easy ameen.

What islam says about both parents roles in a childs life

Raising children is a responsibility that is shared by both parents. This is a trust which Allaah enjoins them to take care of, each according to his position and ability, and this great responsibility cannot be restricted to one of them and not the other. 

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler of the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house and children and is responsible for her flock. The slave is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.” 

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (853) and Muslim (1829). 

Think about how the hadeeth refers to the responsibility of each parent, so as to reinforce the idea that each of them is individually responsible in this regard. And in the hadeeth about the fitrah pure state one is born in) we see how children take their religion from both parents, and not just one of them. 

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no child who is not born in a state of fitrah (pure state of Islam), then his parents make him a Jew or a Christian or a Magian.” 

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1292) and Muslim (2658). 

With regard to fulfilment of shared duties, Islam enjoins a means by which they are usually fulfilled in the best and most successful manner, which is by means of discussion and consultation. This may be the most important cause of family happiness and successful rearing of children. The command to consult one another regarding shared responsibilities is mentioned in the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no sin on them”

[al-Baqarah 2:233]

Imam Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

i.e., if the parents of the child agree to wean him before he is two years old, and they think that this is good for him, and they consult one another about that and agree on it, then there is no sin on them for that. It may be understood from this that if one of them makes this decision on his or her own that is not sufficient and it is not permissible for one of them to decide that without consulting the other. This was stated by al-Thawri and others. This is safer for the child and ensures that his interests will be looked after. This is by the mercy of Allaah towards His slaves, as He has set out guidelines for the parents in raising their child, and has enjoined that which is in their best interests and the child’s. 

Tafseer al-Qur’aan il-‘Azeem (1/380). 

Some studies indicate that many marital problems that lead to divorce are caused by the absence of this matter in the marriage, namely consultation in family life, or by some error in implementing it. Discussion and consultation are an art and a science which must be practised and exercised and understood. 

It is natural that the parents’ opinions with regard to some shared responsibilities, such as raising the children, will sometimes differ, and that is due to differences in the background of the parents, or because of interference by some relatives, or other reasons. But this should not lead to a crisis unless the parents fail to reach an appropriate way of dealing with this difference of opinion. 

References from islam qna.

WHAT IS RAMADAN

Praise be to Allaah.

Ramadaan is one of the twelve Arabic months. It is a month which is venerated in the Islamic religion, and it is distinguished from the other months by a number of characteristics and virtues, including the following: 

1 – Allaah has made fasting this month the fourth pillar of Islam, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“The month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Qur’aan, a guidance for mankind and clear proofs for the guidance and the criterion (between right and wrong). So whoever of you sights (the crescent on the first night of) the month (of Ramadan i.e. is present at his home), he must observe Sawm (fasts) that month…”

[al-Baqarah 2:185]

and it was narrated in al-Saheehayn (al-Bukhaari, 8; Muslim, 16) from the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Islam is built on five (pillars): the testimony that there is no god except Allaah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allaah; establishing prayer; paying zakaah; fasting Ramadaan; and Hajj to the House (the Ka’bah).” 

2 – Allaah revealed the Qur’aan in this month, as He says in the verse quoted above (interpretation of the meaning): 

“The month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Qur’aan, a guidance for mankind and clear proofs for the guidance and the criterion (between right and wrong)…”

[al-Baqarah 2:185]

And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Verily, We have sent it (this Qur’aan) down in the Night of Al-Qadr (Decree).”

[al-Qadr 97:1]

3 – Allaah has made Laylat al-Qadr in this month, which is better than a thousand months, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Verily, We have sent it (this Qur’aan) down in the Night of Al-Qadr (Decree).

And what will make you know what the Night of Al-Qadr (Decree) is?

The Night of Al-Qadr (Decree) is better than a thousand months (i.e. worshipping Allaah in that night is better than worshipping Him a thousand months, i.e. 83 years and 4 months).

Therein descend the angels and the Rooh [Jibreel (Gabriel)] by Allaah’s Permission with all Decrees,

(All that night), there is peace (and goodness from Allaah to His believing slaves) until the appearance of dawn”

[al-Qadar 97:1-5] 

“We sent it (this Qur’aan) down on a blessed night [(i.e. the Night of Al-Qadr) in the month of Ramadan — the 9th month of the Islamic calendar]. Verily, We are ever warning [mankind that Our Torment will reach those who disbelieve in Our Oneness of Lordship and in Our Oneness of worship]”

[al-Dukhaan 44:3]

Allaah has blessed Ramadaan with Laylat al-Qadr. Explaining the great status of this blessed night, Soorat al-Qadr was revealed, and there are many ahaadeeth which also speak of that, such as the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There has come to you Ramadaan, a blessed month which Allaah has enjoined you to fast, during which the gates of heaven are opened and the gates of Hell are closed, and the rebellious devils are chained up. In it there is a night which is better than a thousand months, and whoever is deprived of its goodness is indeed deprived.” 

Narrated by al-Nasaa’i, 2106; Ahmad, 8769. classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb, 999. 

And Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever spends Laylat al-Qadr in prayer out of faith and in the hope of reward, will be forgiven his previous sins.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1910; Muslim, 760. 

4 – Allaah has made fasting Ramadaan and spending its nights in prayer out of faith and in the hope of reward a means of forgiveness of sins, as was proven in al-Saheehayn (al-Bukhaari, 2014; Muslim, 760) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever fasts Ramadaan out of faith and in the hope of reward, his previous sins will be forgiven.” And al-Bukhaari (2008) and Muslim (174) also narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever spends the nights of Ramadaan in prayer out of faith and in the hope of reward, his previous sins will be forgiven.” 

The Muslims are unanimously agreed that it is Sunnah to pray qiyaam at night in Ramadaan. Al-Nawawi said that what is meant by praying qiyaam in Ramadaan is to pray Taraweeh, i.e., one achieves what is meant by qiyaam by praying Taraaweeh. 

5 – In this month, Allaah opens the gates of Paradise and closes the gates of Hell, and chains up the devils, as is stated in al-Saheehayn (al-Bukhaari, 1898; Muslim, 1079), from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah who said that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When Ramadaan comes, the gates of Paradise are opened and the gates of Hell are closed, and the devils are chained up.” 

6 – Every night Allaah has people whom He redeems from the Fire. Imam Ahmad (5/256) narrated from the hadeeth of Abu Umaamah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “At every breaking of the fast, Allaah has people whom He redeems.” Al-Mundhiri said: there is nothing wrong with its isnaad; and it was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb, 987. 

Al-Bazzaar (Kashf 962) narrated that Abu Sa’eed said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has people whom He redeems every day and night – i.e., in Ramadaan – and every Muslim every day and night has a prayer that is answered.”  

7 – Fasting Ramadaan is a means of expiation for the sins committed since the previous Ramadaan, so long as one avoids major sins. It was proven in Saheeh Muslim (233) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The five daily prayers, from one Jumu’ah to the next and from one Ramadaan to the next are expiation for (sins committed) in between, so long as you avoid major sins.” 

8 – Fasting in Ramadaan is equivalent to fasting ten months, as is indicated by the hadeeth in Saheeh Muslim (1164) narrated from Abu Ayyoob al-Ansaari: “Whoever fasts Ramadaan then follows it with six days of Shawwaal, it will be like fasting for a lifetime.” Ahmad (21906) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever fasts Ramadaan, a month is like ten months, and fasting six days after al-Fitr will complete the year.” 

9 – Whoever prays qiyaam in Ramadaan with the imam until he finishes, it will be recorded for him that he spent the whole night in prayer, because of the report narrated by Abu Dawood (1370) and others from the hadeeth of Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever prays qiyaam with the imam until he finishes, it will be recorded for him that he spent the whole night in prayer.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Salaat al-Taraaweeh, p. 15 

10 – ‘Umrah in Ramadaan is equivalent to Hajj. Al-Bukhaari (1782) and Muslim (1256) narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to a woman among the Ansaar, “What kept you from doing Hajj with us?” She said, “We only had two camels that we used for bringing water.” So her husband and son had gone for Hajj on one camel, and he left the other for them to use for bringing water.” He said, “When Ramadaan comes, go for ‘Umrah, for ‘Umrah in Ramadaan is equivalent to Hajj.” According to a report narrated by Muslim, “… is equivalent to doing Hajj with me.”  

11 – It is Sunnah to observe i’tikaaf (retreat for the purpose of worship) in Ramadaan, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) always did that, as it was narrated in the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to spend the last ten days of Ramadaan in i’tikaaf until he passed away, then his wives observed i’tikaaf after him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1922; Muslim, 1172. 

12 – It is mustahabb in the sense of being strongly recommended in Ramadaan to study the Qur’aan together and to read it a great deal. You may study the Qur’aan together by reciting it to someone else and by having someone else recite it to you. The evidence that this is mustahabb is the fact that Jibreel used to meet the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) every night in Ramadaan and study the Qur’aan with him. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6; Muslim, 2308. 

Reading Qur’aaan is mustahabb in general, but more so in Ramadaan. 

13 – It is mustahabb in Ramadaan to offer iftaar to those who are fasting, because of the hadeeth of Zayd ibn Khaalid al-Juhani (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever gives iftaar to one who is fasting will have a reward like his, without that detracting from the fasting person’s reward in the slightest.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 807; Ibn Maajah, 1746; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 647. see question no: ( 12598 ) 

And Allaah knows best.

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WHEN A 6 YEAR OLD WRITES A POEM

Hello world i wish you all happiness and peace.

MUM AND DAD

Mum and Dad are so slow they walk in the snow

They live in the zoo with mice and nice books

The zoo has energy for people like mice that eat rice

Mum and Dad now escaped from the zoo now they live in a nice lovely house.

They live with rabbits that have lots of bad habits

Mum and Dad are the king and queen of the palace of life.

THE RIGHTS OF WOMEN IN ISLAM

Praise be to Allaah.

Islam honours women greatly. It honours women as mothers who must be respected, obeyed and treated with kindness. Pleasing one’s mother is regarded as part of pleasing Allaah. Islam tells us that Paradise lies at the mother’s feet, i.e. that the best way to reach Paradise is through one’s mother. And Islam forbids disobeying one’s mother or making her angry, even by saying a mild word of disrespect. The mother’s rights are greater than those of the father, and the duty to take care of her grows greater as the mother grows older and weaker. All of that is mentioned in many texts of the Qur’aan and Sunnah Prophetic traditions). 

For example, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents”

[al-Ahqaaf 46:15] 

“And your Lord has decreed that you wor`ship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’”

[al-Isra’ 17:23, 24]

Ibn Maajah (2781) narrated that Mu’aawiyah ibn Jaahimiah al-Sulami (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad (battle) with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?”  I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her.” Then I approached him from the other side and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?”  I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her.” Then I approached him from in front and said, O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?”  I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her (lit. stay by her feet), for there is Paradise.” 

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah. It was also narrated by al-Nasaa’i with the words: “Stay with her for Paradise is beneath her feet.” 

Al-Bukhaari (5971) and Muslim (2548) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: A man came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, who is most deserving of my good company?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Then your father.” 

And there are other texts which we do not have room to mention here.  

One of the rights which Islam gives to the mother is that her son should spend on her if she needs that support, so long as he is able and can afford it. Hence for many centuries it was unheard of among the people of Islam for a mother to be left in an old-people’s home or for a son to kick her out of the house, or for her sons to refuse to spend on her, or for her to need to work in order to eat and drink if her sons were present. 

Islam also honours women as wives. Islam urges the husband to treat his wife in a good and kind manner, and says that the wife has rights over the husband like his rights over her, except that he has a degree over her, because of his responsibility of spending and taking care of the family’s affairs. Islam states that the best of the Muslim men is the one who treats his wife in the best manner, and the man is forbidden to take his wife’s money without her consent. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“and live with them honourably”

[al-Nisa’ 4:19] 

“And they (women) have rights similar (to those of their husbands) over them to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allaah is All-Mighty, All-Wise”

[al-Baqarah 2:228]

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I urge you to treat women well.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 331; Muslim, 1468. 

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3895; Ibn Maajah, 1977; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 

And Islam honours women as daughters, and encourages us to raise them well and educate them. Islam states that raising daughters will bring a great reward. For example, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood, he and I will come like this on the Day of Resurrection,” and he held his fingers together. Narrated by Muslim, 2631. 

Ibn Maajah (3669) narrated that ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink and clothes them from his riches, they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah. 

Islam honours women as sisters and as aunts. Islam enjoins upholding the ties of kinship and forbids severing those ties in many texts. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O people! Spread (the greeting of) salaam, offer food (to the needy), uphold the ties of kinship, and pray at night when people are sleeping, and you will enter Paradise in peace.” Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 3251; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah. 

Al-Bukhaari (5988) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah, may He be exalted, said to the ties of kinship: ‘Whoever upholds you, I will support him, and whoever breaks you, I will cut him off.’” 

All of these qualities may co-exist in a single woman: she may be a wife, a daughter, a mother, a sister, an aunt, so she may be honoured in all these ways. 

To conclude: Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allaah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allaah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. Women have the right to a decent life, without facing aggression or being wronged. Women have the right to be educated; in fact it is obligatory to teach them what they need to know about their religion. 

Anyone who compares the rights of women in Islam with their situation during the Jaahiliyyah (pre-Islamic days of ignorance)or in other civilizations will understand that what we are saying is true. In fact we are certain that women are given the greatest honour in Islam. 

There is no need for us to mention the situation of women in Greek, Persian or Jewish society, but even Christian societies had a bad attitude towards women. The theologians even gathered at the Council of Macon to discuss whether a woman was merely a body or a body with a soul. They thought it most likely that women did not have a soul that could be saved, and they made an exception only in the case of Mary (Maryam – peace be upon her). 

The French held a conference in 586 CE to discuss whether women had souls or not, and if they had souls, were these souls animal or human? In the end, they decided that they were human! But they were created to serve men only. 

During the time of Henry VIII, the English Parliament issued a decree forbidding women to read the New Testament because they were regarded as impure. 

Until 1805, English law allowed a man to sell his wife, and set a wife’s price at six pennies. 

In the modern age, women were kicked out of the house at the age of eighteen so that they could start working to earn a bite to eat. If a woman wanted to stay in the house, she had to pay her parents rent for her room and pay for her food and laundry. 

See ‘Awdat al-Hijaab, 2/47-56. 

How can this compare to Islam which enjoins honouring and kind treatment of women, and spending on them? 

Secondly: 

With regard to the changes in these rights throughout the ages, the basic principles have not changed, but with regard to the application of these principles, there can be no doubt that during the golden age of Islam, the Muslims applied the sharee’ah (Islamic law) of their Lord more, and the rulings of this sharee’ah include honouring one’s mother and treating one’s wife, daughter, sister and women in general in a kind manner. The weaker religious commitment grew, the more these rights were neglected, but until the Day of Resurrection there will continue to be a group who adheres to their religion and applies the sharee’ah (laws) of their Lord. These are the people who honour women the most and grant them their rights. 

Despite the weakness of religious commitment among many Muslims nowadays, women still enjoy a high status, whether as daughters, wives or sisters, whilst we acknowledge that there are shortcomings, wrongdoing and neglect of women’s rights among some people, but each one will be answerable for himself.

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3 SIMPLE WAYS TO STAY HEALTHY IN WINTER

I think I must have been a bear in my pass life for some reason I seem to always hypernate every winter AND eat a lot. So this time round I have decided that something has to change in my life before I self destruct, OKAY OKAY maybe I’m being little bit extra but you know what I mean. In order to stay fit is important to cut out unhealthy diet so we can start being happy within, here are 3 ways to alter your lifestyle which helped me and many people that I know.

WALKING

Walking is the number one way to staying fit it is proven that walking Half an hour a day could change your health and well being thus It helps with anxiety and depression specially after giving birth is advised by medical experts to go out for tip of fresh air hence is a great way to meet new people to socialise outside your circle and it doesn’t cost you a dime.

HEALTHY EATING AND FASTING

Next one is just eating healthy and fasting twice a week this is so healthy for Mind and body detox and all in the comfort of your home. Research shows Theat benefit of eating healthy and fasting are it Enhance Heart Health by Improving Blood Pressure, Triglycerides and Cholesterol Levels. … In addition, one study in 4,629 people associated fasting with a lower risk of coronary artery disease, as well as a significantly lower risk of diabetes, which is a major risk factor for heart disease

CARDIO WOKOUT/ZUMBA

Home cardio / Zumba the choice is yours I think it is the best option when the weather isn’t that great you can turn up at the comfort of your own home and maybe you could invite a friends to workout with you or If home workout isn’t your thing then you could always join fitness centres or a fitness community.

WHEN A 6 YEAR OLD WRITES A STORY..

HELLO wonderful people todays post is something very different as you can tell by the title.

THE HUNTER AND HIS PET DRAGON

Once upon a time there was a hunter who had a pet dragon that liked to eat fish and he was really good at sports and liked to fly a lot. The dragon once fought a bigger dragon and he won. His owner was called Mr Flint lockwood, and he liked to play basketball with his bold dad and he won. Flint Lockwood had a friend called Sam who wore glasses. One day Flint Lockwood ,Sam, and his pet dragon decided to go on an adventure to a far far away place to see the elephants elephants jump over the fence, They all arrived at the far far away land and they sow the elephants elephants jump over the fence and they didn’t not come back until the 4th of December. Flint Lockwood said to the dragon” fly us up we want to see the elephants elephants”.

Flint Lockwood liked the elephant elephants so much that he said to them ” you can be our pets” the elephants ran away.

THE END



TEAM HOME -EDUCATION

I am currently homeschooling all my children, the descion came about after seeing my children not being pushed to their capability and other personal reasons off course. I’m m not going to lie to you at the beginning it was taugh it meant that i had to change my whole schedule and create a new one that best fitted us , don’t get me wrong the kids were having the time of their life and so on. After few days past I created a new lesson plans, and off we went to purchas all the learning equiments we needed and boy was it expensive!.

I hope you liked my little introduction ; now LETS DIVE IN! the aim of this post is to share my experience and thoughts in home education and the positive impact in children. For parents who are thinking of home schooling their little ones i hope this helps; the list are as follows.

CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR

We know that kids pick up habits from other children unfortunately these include bad words, negative attitude, bullying and so on. In homei education kids can be who they want to be without peer pressure and we get to help them find social situations where they aren’t introduced to poor attitudes and behaviour issues.

CONFIDENCE

I’m Ever since I took them out of school their confidence has grown drastically in all areas of life they are more excited about learning and more independent, they don’t shy away from other kids and easily adapt in new surroundings specially my youngest daughter.

POSTIVE ATTENTION
children want our attention. They associate time with love and want to spend time with us. in school our children are gone from us long period and this type of routine starts when they are 4 years old so could you imagine after child returns home you child only has 20 minutes to talk to you before they start doing their homework or the extra activities. In home education there is no fight with time you and your child can spend the whole day bounding and doing activities. When you home-school your kids get positive attention from you, they get the gift of your time, and so they stop seeking to get your attention in less desirable ways.

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LESSON PLANS

When you hear about lesson planning it can be daunting, but trust me is not that difficult is actually quit easy, the first step is that you have to think about is how to make the topics entertaining and personal for each child. You can purchase text books ,story books ,educational games and print out activity sheets to make each day different. I also organize one day of the week were I reward each child for their hard work thus making them enjoy and work harder.


Reviewing types of neglect – Children

  1. Emotional neglect – This is when a carer fails to meet the emotional/affectional need of a child. Bare this is mind for a while, we will shortly talk about this particular topic in more depth after reviewing and understanding the other types of neglect.
  2. Physical neglect – We can briefly describe this type of neglect as failure to provide everyday needs of a child. This covers food, clothing, a clean house ,with clean bedding and everyday necessities.
  3. Medical neglect – This is when you do not take your child for regular check ups at the hospital, dentist and eye clinic. When we say regular here we are referring to as and when needed.
  4. Educational neglect – What’s referred to under this heading is the depravation of education. The law does not stop you from home-schooling so long as the child is exposed to education and follows a regular schedule where his needs are fulfilled under this category.

1st Looking at the first type of neglect “emotional” – From amongst the many reasons I chose to home-school is because I felt like my children had been neglected in school emotionally. They where pressured at a very early age to compete with others around them by been categorised in ability (Red, Amber, Green) which became their only focus and thus led to loosing confidence and hope. Additionally some children are very able but because their hand writing may not be presentable hence they might be young age 5-8 years old, then the teachers focus diverts in judgment from their ability to their presentation not allowing them to succeed and step up that ladder up until they sort presentation out, a very unrealistic goal given to please Ofsted and not to develop a child’s confidence instead by allowing them to learn from their mistakes and by allowing them to learn new thing as presentation sorts itself out as the years go by.

2nd – Physical neglect, I would consider school to be pretty good in providing meals with no failure in schools, however after privatizing the schools the food courts become privatised also giving the school the ability to ban pack lunches to make these courts richer. This can be described as neglect from the schools themselves as the options are tightened and the children go hungry hence some are not used to certain types of foods. A lot of the children complain to their parents of feeling hungry as they could not eat the meals provided due to the poor quality of taste and not necessarily nutritional values. Its only fair that those kids whose parents do not neglect them are able to provide their kids with meals that are healthy yet tasteful similar to that they eat at home. Force feeding them something they cant eat is still neglect as it goes to waste and does not fill anyone.

3rd – Medical neglect, This is a very controversial one because the odds are always against you for this one. The schools have a nurse that should decide whether your child is fit enough or not according to them based on the judgement of a nurse paid by the school itself. We all have duties of care to our children, therefore I do not agree with the idea of having to take my child to school the next day for them to decide whether my child is fit enough or not. A good parent will always take prior action and seek advice from someone superior in knowledge that a nurse. i.e. the doctor. When advised to stay home then the school should simply comply with that. Instead we have once again due to pressures from the council letters threatening us with fines if we’ve had a bad year of reoccurring illnesses. We then get blamed for neglecting our child from education. Can you ever win?

4th- Educational neglect, Finally this links very well with all that spoken about hence it all links. There are certain circumstances going towards more extreme situations that I’ve heard of where a child might be going through anxiety and depression that forces him/her to stay home as in such hard times all that child wants is comfort from his family. If the parents don’t give him/her that support then they’re neglecting him/her but in the other hand the school want that child to attend otherwise the caregiver is neglecting him/her of an education. Now, due to been forced to go to school
his/her depression increases which leads to his appetite being affected this can be evident with weight loss. Now the child is neglected physically. There’s no doubt that in these extremist of situations parents tend to home-school to have the flexibility to deal with the situation in the best possible manner.

Can you ever win? Should the council have more in place to help these children? More flexible solutions need to be allowed as supposed to keeping it black or white. Leave you comments it would be interesting to see what you think.